Weird Things Women Get Shamed For

     Yesterday, I was thinking of actually writing a post ahead of time. You know, like I have been doing for more than a year until 2 days ago when I dropped the ball. I was thinking about what to write about, since I hadn't yet managed to take any photos of the one doll I managed to get finished last week, and I happened to see one of those random product posts on Facebook. And then I went down the comments rabbit hole. All of a sudden I knew what to write about. It has no relation to doll work, and only bits of relation to my life in general. 

     Today I am going to write about weird things that women get shamed for. By some men and by some women. Nothing is universal, there are no absolutes, but these are things that men almost never get shamed for. Sometimes because they don't relate to men at all, and sometimes because of double standards. So here we go. 

     Woman have been shamed for:

Body hair. Either for having too much, or for removing too much.

Not smiling enough.

Having periods, and anything that goes along with it. 

Having larger thighs or butt. I had grown men making sexual comments to me since I was 11. 

Being too muscular, or too thin, or too fat. 

For not having children. Or for having children. 

For having stretch marks.

For being too tall. 

For not being in a relationship.

For having large breasts. Or for having small breasts. 

For being too shy. Or for being too outgoing. 

Wearing clothing that is too revealing. Wearing clothing that is too covering. 

Caring too much about fashion. Not caring enough about fashion.

Wearing too much makeup. Not wearing enough makeup.

Dieting. Not dieting.

Not dying gray hair. 

Having tattoos. 

       These are actual things that women have been shamed for. Often. And there are a lot of other things. It really is a strange thing to me. I have seen entire groups (many) whose sole purpose is to talk about how women with tattoos are whores. Really? What started this rabbit hole was a makeup primer ad on Facebook. The comments went from "does this actually work", "does it work on undereye wrinkles" to, "I like women to be natural". The comments also included many women saying that they had great skin because they had never worn makeup, with other women then replying that makeup doesn't ruin your skin (it really does not, and a lot of makeup these days can help protect your skin). I wondered why people who don't wear makeup were commenting at all. Anyway, I have dealt with the comments on having large breasts, or a big butt, tattoos, colored hair, not coloring my gray hair, being too heavy, having kids (especially since I had them young), and my least favorite, for having a kid with special needs. There really are people who will sort of "blame" the mother if a kid is different. Clearly, we must have done something wrong. Not disciplined enough. These things are said and thought, and are completely ridiculous. 

     So my hope for 2022, and every year, is that we can all learn to be a little nicer to each other. Stop judging each other on things beyond our control or our personal choices that have absolutely no consequence on anyone else. And let's please give Anne some ideas of what she can write about or we may get some more wonky posts like this one, lol! I am also open to guest posts!